How to keep the spark alive
Have you ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in a relationship? If there's anything we've learned from movies, it's that love is often spontaneous — and fiery. But what happens when those sparks die down? That depends on several factors including: commitment level; closeness; physical intimacy; passion; variety/frequency of sexual encounters; novelty/ variety of sexual techniques used during etc.
These factors all play a role in keeping the spark alive because they create an environment where couples are more likely to feel safe expressing themselves sexually with one another. This helps them maintain an intimate connection for years (or even decades) into their long-term relationships.
Triangular theory of love
The triangular theory of love was developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. In his theory, there are three components that are necessary for a lasting relationship: Commitment, Intimacy, and Passion.
Commitment is the foundation of a relationship. It refers to the feeling of being strongly connected to someone else and being willing to invest time and energy into the relationship. Intimacy is what keeps the relationship together — it's the glue that binds two people together emotionally and spiritually as they share their feelings with each other over time. Passion is what makes a romance exciting and keeps it alive — when you're passionate about someone, it increases your risk-taking behaviour because you want more from them than just their companionship (you want physical contact as well).
Commitment is the willingness to act in a relationship. In other words, commitment is about sticking by your partner through thick and thin. When you commit to someone, it means that you’re willing to take the steps necessary to make your relationship work.
Commitment is an ongoing process — you don’t just decide you want to be committed one day and then stop there. Instead, being committed means working together as a team throughout your entire relationship.
Intimacy is a feeling of closeness, connectedness and bondedness with another person. It's the state of being near someone or something. In a romantic relationship, intimacy can include physical affection like kissing and cuddling; mental connection through deep conversations about your hopes for the future; or spiritual connection through shared interests and beliefs.
To keep the spark alive, it’s important to nurture all aspects of your relationship—the emotional connection as well as physical intimacy. A healthy sex life is one part of this equation (see below), but there are many other ways you can connect with your partner on an intimate level that don't involve sex at all!
Passion is what ignites the relationship and keeps it going. Passion is the fire that burns brightly in a couple's eyes, showing their love for each other. It's what keeps couples together when times get tough, or they're faced with challenges. It's the spark that sets off a roaring blaze of passion between two people who are in love with one another.
A key to keeping the fire alive is variety. This doesn't just mean switching up your sexual positions every now and then (though that's certainly a good start). It means exploring new things together as a couple—whether it's trying a new restaurant, taking an escape room adventure, or even going on a concert date with your favourite band.
Be adventurous! Go out of your way to add excitement into your relationship by doing things that you don't normally do or taking risks together in hopes of finding new common ground.
Sex is important to a relationship. If you're not having sex, you could be missing out on some of the great benefits that this act provides. Here are just some:
- It's a way to communicate with your partner and show that you care about them.
- It can bond couples together, especially if it's done regularly (once every few weeks).
- Sex can be used as an expression of love or affection for another person by letting them know how much they mean to us, which in turn makes us feel more connected with them as well.
The key to a lasting relationship is spice, so keep the flame alive
The key to a lasting relationship is spice. The more variety there is in your sex life, the more fun and adventurous it will be. I'm not saying you should be having sex in public, but if you're shy about trying something new because it might feel strange or uncomfortable at first, don't worry about that. You don't have to go all out on day one—just try something different every now and then, see how it goes, and build from there!
It's also important not just for your partner but for yourself as well. Sex should always be an exciting adventure; otherwise, why bother doing it with someone else? If you keep things fresh by introducing new elements into your bedroom routine occasionally, (and I mean “once in a while”), not only will this keep both of you guessing what might happen next but also allow space for creativity when making love next time around—something that's crucial when trying out new positions!
Now that you know how to keep the spark alive in your relationship, it’s time to get started! The key to keeping the flame alive is spice so don’t be afraid to experiment and try new things. Remember that even though there may be times when things get challenging in a relationship, it doesn’t mean it has to end. Commitment, intimacy, and passion are all important factors when considering whether your relationship will last long term.
Consider relationship counselling and/ or sex therapy to explore ways you can continue to grow as a couple and keep the flames of passion going.