shame

Understanding Shame

Shame can affect our relationships and the way we feel about ourselves – and yet we feel it for a whole range of reasons. Here are some expert ways to combat shame.

Podcast - Shame

Shame can affect our relationships and the way we feel about ourselves – and yet we feel it for a whole range of reasons. Here are some expert ways to combat shame.

Remember that an expectation is resentment waiting to happen, so make sure that your expectations are realistic.

• Practise self-compassion. “Speak kindly to yourself and don’t give yourself a hard time because you didn’t do something that your perfectionism said needed to be of a certain standard”. We’ll explore selfcompassion more in next week’s issue.

• Share your feelings with a trusted friend. “Shame festers in secrecy, but it can’t survive empathy,” Krause says. “Shame can’t survive with words wrapped around it. If we choose to share our difficult moments, with the people who’ve earned the right to hear our story, that will help us feel better.”